Questions To Ask BEFORE Writing a Memoir

1) What is your WHY?

Knowing your WHY (the big picture stuff) helps you throughout the entire process of writing, editing, publishing and marketing your book. When you fully understand your reasons for wanting to write your book, it will:

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Really think about WHY writing this story or book is so important to you. Write it down. Journal about it. Record it. Stick it up as an affirmation on your wall. Refer back to it often throughout your writing journey to help keep you on track.

Consider which of the following best describes your why?

2) Do you have a date or timeframe to finish your book?

If you are writing your memoir for personal reasons or as a form of healing, this may not apply to you. The process of writing your life story is valuable in itself. However, for many of you, having a deadline will help motivate you to actually finish it.

The biggest problem for writers is not the lack of ideas or telling people about their book, but actually writing it.

If you are writing this book to help you promote your business or career, consider timely events which relate to your business. These events could be great opportunities to launch your book.

For example:

Reverse engineer to meet deadlines

So the idea is to REVERSE ENGINEER or work backwards from this date. Mark milestones on your calendar to work towards in order to have it written, edited and published in time. This works well for self-publishing. However, it gets more complicated if you want to traditionally publish.

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Print out a calendar and mark out:

3) What is your Most Conducive Writing Environment?

In other words, where is the best place for you to write without interruption or that keeps procrastination at bay?

If that’s at home, can you close or lock the door and let everyone know not to bother you unless the house is burning down. Or if you can’t trust yourself with the distractions of home, get out of the house. Go to a coffee shop. (I know this has been difficult throughout Covid, but the point is to create a space that helps you write.

DO YOU LOVE YOUR WRITING SPACE?

Perhaps your study or writing space is messy with files, coffee cups, or stacks of books to read. Is it cramped or just plain ugly? Beautify it; make it a place that reflects you and your style. This doesn’t have to be expensive.

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4) What Obstacles do YOU Face which Could Prevent You from Starting or Finishing Your Book?

Consider what the REAL obstacles are to starting and potentially completing your book and what is IMAGINED?

TIME IS A BIG ONE FOR MANY PEOPLE.

If you can organise your time and incorporate chunks of writing time, you begin to see that writing a book is really achievable.

A book is generally 60,000 words, but it could be more or less. If you were to write 1000 words a day (which is about 4 pages of 250 words, you could have your 60,000 words in 60 days (2 months). Of course, that is Draft 1, but it doesn’t seem so hard when you look at it like that.

 1000 words a day x 60 Days = A BOOK.

Keep asking yourself how important writing this book is to you. What would it mean to your family, business or for your own sense of achievement?

LACK OF CONFIDENCE

Another obstacle may be a lack of confidence in your writing ability. The beauty of writing memoir is that this is your story and you can tell it in your unique voice. Anne Lamott says to “write the shitty first draft” and Kate Grenville says that “writing is re-writing” so don’t let your perceived lack of writing ability stop you from sharing your story or important message with the world. You can always buy books on ‘How to Write’ or borrow them from the library.

There are ways you can capture your voice and translate it into words on a page.

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THE MOST IMPORTANT THING WHEN STARTING TO WRITE YOUR BOOK IS TO GET WORDS ON THE PAGE

BEHIND ALL THE EXCUSES, THERE IS USUALLY THE UNDERLYING EMOTION OF FEAR AND FEAR PARALYSIS

I could write a whole book around this one. In fact, I have. One of my writing mentors Joanna Penn from The Creative Penn, wrote a book titled, Author Mindset. This is a great resource for anyone who wants to change their mindset in order to write their book. Another one is, of course, Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert.

5) How Do YOU Want to Present Your Book? In Words, Pictures, or Both?

In this day and age of self-publishing and interactive methods of receiving information, I think it’s very important to think about how you want to PRESENT your book. There are so many more options available to us and if you know how you want to create your book from the beginning, it could save you time, money, and frustration in the end.

Most people think in terms of writing a book of text, which is how traditional publishers expect to receive a manuscript and publish a book. It is not commercially viable for a traditional publisher to take on a new writer who wants to publish an “experimental” book or a book with many images in it.

However, there are so many exciting ways to present a book and I teach this in my Memoir Masterclass. Please visit my Courses page for more information.

I love experimental books and enjoy new and interesting ways of reading or hearing stories on audiobooks, so I encourage you to be creative but arm yourself with all the information so that you don’t waste time or money.

6) How Much Money Will YOU Need to Write, Edit, Publish and Market Your Book?

Most people don’t really think about the cost until after they have written their manuscript. However, it’s useful to know that depending on the type of book you want to write and your why, your book could range in cost from a minimal amount to thousands to produce if you self-publish. It’s good to be prepared and to plan for your costs.

If you are writing for personal reasons or a family book, you can pool resources and find people who can edit, or have experience in graphic design to do a book cover. However, if you want to create a book and put it out into the public arena, you have to make it the best you can and that means investing in it.

THERE ARE 3 THINGS THAT ARE NOT NEGOTIABLE

I would ask for recommendations from Facebook groups or forums and get honest feedback about the services provided. There are a number of organisations such as The Society of Editors or the Australian Society of Authors who can recommend legitimate editors and illustrators.

Shop around, negotiate and be prepared to invest in quality people to produce a quality book.

I can’t really give you an exact figure on the cost of self-publishing your book because there are so many factors involved including:

However, I did a recent blog post that can give you a range of the costs involved if you want to self-publish on a budget or if you can afford to outsource some of the work. Click here for more information...

7) Who Do YOU Need to Talk to (If Anyone) To Start or Complete Your Book?

Writing a memoir is about writing one aspect of your life as opposed to an autobiography, which is writing a whole life. Both can be complex and bring up positive or painful memories about your past or the particular story you are writing about.

Perhaps you have blocked memories and need to talk to family or friends about events.

You may need to verify facts, dates or simply get other people’s perspectives about the story you are writing.

I found that interviewing my family brought a richness and depth to my story that I would not have had otherwise. It gave me more understanding and empathy.

WRITING A MEMOIR IS ABOUT THE OBSERVATION OF LIFE OR THE MEANING YOU CAN CONSTRUCT FROM LIFE EVENTS THAT MAKE IT SO INTERESTING TO READ

Writing your life can bring up painful memories and force you to deal with emotions you may have buried. I’d like you to consider this an opportunity to work through your “stuff” and talk to a counsellor or psychologist if need be in order to work through any issues or difficult emotions that may surface.

IT TAKES COURAGE TO WRITE A LIFE STORY AND YOU CANNOT WRITE IT WITHOUT BEING TRANSFORMED

Be prepared for difficult times, difficult conversations with loved ones, and get the support you need. I can honestly say that writing my family story has changed my life. I have a greater understanding of my family members and myself, and we have become closer.

8) What Research do YOU Need to Do?

Writing a memoir is more about the observation and reflection of the events of your life. However, research may still be a component of your life story journey.

I realised that in order for me to understand myself better; I had to know where I came from. I travelled back to my father’s country of Croatia in order to walk his walk and discover the secrets of his life that shaped his character. He was such a strong influence on my life that I could not write my story without going back to my roots.

I also spent time at the State Library of NSW researching migrant stories in Australia in the 50s and 60s because I grew up between two cultures. I found interesting television footage and interviews that helped me understand this time in our history and how that related to our family story.

What is your story about? What do you need to discover about yourself?

What information about your heritage shapes you as a person or has affected the decisions you have made in your life?

I don’t believe that you can write a memoir without considering your heritage, culture, race, or religion/spirituality. It’s all woven into the complexity of our characters.

ORGANISATIONS THAT MIGHT BE USEFUL ARE:

RESEARCH CLOSER TO HOME:

9) Do you want to Traditionally Publish or Self-Publish Your Story?

You may wonder why this is crucial before you start your book. Trust me – it could you save you a lot of time and your sanity. I’ve learned the hard way.

GO BACK TO YOUR WHY…

There are pros and cons for both methods, but there is no right or wrong either. It just depends on your WHY.

Please note—Print-on-Demand Services also have guidelines about how many images you can include within a text. So I highly recommend that you research which self-publishing service you want and what you can actually include in your book, especially if it is a little different.

Print-on-demand Services will only allow a certain number of images to be inserted into a book of text. Note that the price to produce also varies according to whether you choose black and white or colour for your book to be printed.

Therefore, it's wise to start at the end (deciding your publishing options) to discern whether the WAY you want to write and publish your book is commercially viable (especially if you're looking to Traditionally publish.) This may not be a consideration for some, it all depends on your story and your WHY.

10) How are YOU going to MARKET your book?

NOTE: You have to have a book to market—so don’t waste time with the business side of marketing a book if it stops you from WRITING your book.

Again, how you market and distribute your book depends on the type of book you write, your why and how you publish it.

Consider how you will share the book if it’s for family only.

TRADITIONAL PUBLISHING

If you traditionally publish your book (that’s if you’re able to get a contract) the publishing company has a budget to market your book, however, this may be small or large depending on who you are (a first-time author or someone who consistently pays their wages). However, you are also expected to do what you can to market your book and build your author platform.

SELF-PUBLISHING

If you decide to self-publish, you have to manage every aspect of marketing and distribution. Again, Joanna Penn from The Creative Penn has a fabulous book titled, How to Market a Book which tells you everything you need to know as an indie author on how to get your book out there.

Your major focus at this point will be writing your book, but I suggest that you start thinking about how you may want to market your book and keep a list of ideas so you are organised when your book is completed.

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